Are you Micromanaging Yourself?
In other words are you controlling yourself to a degree that it is limiting you?
Micromanagement is a term often used with business and management in the way in which employees are being ‘managed’.
I would like to take this conversation inward with you.
Do you ever find yourself holding back or waiting? Could it be that you are trying to ‘fit in’ or manage yourself?
Now, before you go making yourself wrong for this, please know, that growing up we are often taught to fit in, to not be different in order to make it easier on others…especially our teachers (or a least from my experience).
There’s a beautiful quote from Oscar Wiled that goes: ‘Be you, everybody else is taken.’ Nowhere in there does it say, be you, then be less of you so that others can be comfortable, does it?
So, how do you know you are micromanaging yourself? Let me count the ways….first off, you know you’re micromanaging yourself when you hold back from speaking up. Micromanaging yourself could also look like you don’t wear what you really want wear or you spend hours deciphering what to wear because you’re worried what others will think. Micromanaging can also look like taking forever to make a decision, not allowing yourself to just go for it! And there are a multitude of ways you could micromanage yourself. The point here is, if you’re stopping yourself, doubting yourself or holding yourself back, you are most likely micromanaging yourself.
The good news is, once you know that you’re micromanaging yourself, you can stop and change it if you want to.
If you want to stop the micromanaging, you really just begin by paying attention to how you are treating yourself. When you notice you are micromanaging yourself, do not go into you being bad or wrong because here you are micromanaging you again. Just ask yourself, what could I choose here instead? And how would I be treating me if I treated me like a best friend?
And then you keep going. You continue to pay attention to how you are treating yourself, and if it’s unkind and it’s limiting you, do something different. This will be an on-going practice, keep paying attention and with practice, you will start functioning from empowering yourself rather than micromanaging yourself.